Why I call my place the Dog House.

Ever since I can remember I had a knack of saying the wrong thing that caused me to suffer in some way. It was called Ron's hoof in mouth disease. I was only trying to help family and friends and always said the wrong thing or stated it the wrong way. Example: I Love You. Years ago this was ok to say to family. If said to female friends it was ok..but you did not dare say I Love You to male friends unless you wanted your lights punched out, or people thinking you had a limp wrist.

I was the kid that was always picked on in school by the bullies. I didn't have many friends and was a bit of a nerd ( WAS ?, I STILL AM ). I took a lot of ridicule for the way I looked and acted, so I kept myself to a small group. I learned to use humor to hide my pain and used the ridicule as part of my humor. I learned that if I used myself as the brunt of a joke the bullies would laugh and leave me alone. As I got older I learned to joke even more and sometimes I joked too much and didn't realize that I was hurting others with my jokes. So began my life of being in the Dog House.

Once I learned that I was hurting peoples feelings I was filled with remorse and tried harder to take the brunt of the joke to the point that I had no self esteem. This carried on into my adulthood and caused problems in My two marriages. I became depressed and didn't know anything of depression. It wasn't until nine years into my second marriage that I found out that I was depressed. My depression effected many people, my wife to whom I've been married to for 25 1/2 years..my kids ..and friends. Once I got professional help, I learned many of my feelings were way off base. It took several years to learn that it was ok to feel the way I did. I learned to control my depression instead of it controlling me.

I still have hoof in mouth disease, but it is at my choice. I do things to aggravate my wife but she knows that I do it in fun and not to hurt. She has learned with out saying anything how I feel physically and emotionally. She knows that I LOVE HER and do not have a limp wrist. She knows that I would not hurt her intentionally for any reason. She knows that I respect her and cherish her.

I still call my place the Dog House and that I'm comfortable with it. Right now we have 4 adult dogs and 8 puppies. Nine dog's too many. Puppies and mother are due to leave soon. I still joke about my Dog House but I say that if I'm going to live in the Dog House I'm going to be comfortable, air conditioning, refrigerator, TV, etc.

I still joke only thing is I have learned to think first. Is it going to hurt someone or is it fun. The last thing I want to ever do is upset someone with my humor.

Brain is not working too good today so this will be short. I went to the doctor today to find out the results of the test the doctor had prescribed for me. All is great with the blood test, minor adjustments of my meds, and scheduled an appointment with Cardiologist for tomorrow. Said the stress test on my heart was abnormal....I told him abnormal was normal for me. Any how, he is getting me established with doctors closer to home.

He prescribed some x-rays of my neck cause I have had a lot of pain with my neck and has developed into headaches. NO Tim, the pain in the neck is not Janet. I think it is arthritis getting worse.

Like I said this was going to be short, time for a nap. Later all.

Tis But Another Day

Tis another day and waiting for the Big Game of the Week to begin. Wanting to know who to congratulate. Brother-in-law or my daughter.
My out-law Brother is a Bronco's fan and my daughter is a Steeler's fan, as for me I could care less. I just like watching play offs and the Superbowl. I'm not much of a sports fan. I use to like playing sports when I was younger and all but since my open heart surgery I can't do too much any more.

My surgery was to by-pass an aneurysm on my coronary artery. It was about the size of a cherry tomato the doctor said. The doctor tied it off on each side and then bi-passed it with two grafts around it. The surgery was only done to save my life. Not to correct any of the other things wrong with my heart. If the aneurysm wasn't there the surgery would not have been done.

The other things wrong with my heart, stated by the doctors , are minor. I look at it this way , go out on a lake in a boat, shoot five holes in it. It will slowly sink. The same with me ,there are FIVE MINOR things wrong with my heart. If I exercise, or exert myself in anything physical, I about black out. I haven't felt real good for years now. I do what I can and rest a lot. It is frustrating and has been down right depressing. The hardest part was learning my limitations. Yard work use to be a snap, now it is a real hard chore, buy the time I get everything ready to do a job I'm already exhausted and have to take a long brake. Then to go back at it later is just as hard. Mind you I am not complaining. I'm glad to be alive. Most of my time is spent on the computer or doing small minor meaningless task. I have adapted to this stumbling block in my life. I have a saying that I came up with. " When Life Knocks You Down, Laugh or You May Not Get Up."

Through out my life I have always used humor and laughter to deal with my pain. Whether it be physical or emotional. It makes a bitter pill easier to swallow. Hence Tis But Another Day

This is Corey and his wife Vicki

Well here it is another day and read my brother-in-laws blog and it reminded me of a similar story about my son Corey and his experience with a tree.

He was about 13 or 14 and was on an overnight camping trip with the Boy Scouts. He left with the troop Friday evening . They hiked a 5 mile trail to a place they called a bridge to nowhere. Reason was they built this bridge for a new road and after it was built the state of California decided to cancel the prodject, so there was this bridge out in the trees and no road.

This was not a small bridge for the troop used it for repelling off the side with ropes. It was during Saturday morning that the boys were repelling. Only a few boys at a time were able to repel.

Corey was always inquisitive. He saw a birds nest up in a pine tree about 3/4 ths of the way up. He decides he is going to climb up and see if there were any birds in the nest. He got near the nest an the next branch was just out of his reach. He went to jump and the branch he was standing on breaks. The Scout Master sees him falling and started to figure how he was going to explain this to Janet and me for all he could do was watch Corey fall taking all branches under him out. Bouncing from limb to limb being tossed head over heels and heading for a huge rock at the base of the tree. The assistant Scout Master saying to himself ,he's dead he's dead.

Corey said that he remembers going head first and seeing this rock. He hit the last branch and it spun him around and he landed between the tree and the rock being wedged head and feet in the air, so that he needed help getting up. He was lucky for that last branch for if it had not spun him around he probably would have hit face first into that rock. Other then a broken hand a few scrapes and bruises some minor cuts he was ok.

Once all was checked out the boys had a chance to practice first aid on him. He hiked out later that day. The Scout Master want to make a litter and carry him out but Corey was tougher then that tree was. That tree was missing most all of it's branches on the side that he fell. Everybody laughs about it now and Corey still carries some scars on his leg but he is a tough guy.

The funny part was when the boys got back home. The Scout Master made sure he approached Janet and me right away. He stated the Corey had an accident while out and that we should have him checked out by a doctor and not to take his appearance to seriously for the boys did first aid on Corey. Corey walks around the van he was in and he looked like a mummy. The boys over did the first aid a bit but made sure all his wounds were covered. Even the ones that didn't need covered. Corey was not and is not a small boy as you can see by his picture.

Well that about does it for today. Have a good day and a better tomorrow.

So sorry for not writing. Been busy with the holidays and all that writing was not on my priority list, or any other list I hope.

A new year has started an I wish one and all a HAPPY NEW YEAR. I hope this year brings you fulfillment in all that you do, or plan to do.

New Years resolutions, OK?, I thought about some and decided not to write about them because I probably wouldn't be able to keep them anyhow. Some that I've tried in the past were dieting, exercise, make more money( that was a Laugh), not getting upset with my wife ( learned to say yes dear), and not getting involved in my kids problems ( wife keeps me involved ) . So this year I decided to take the year off from resolutions and live like I've always lived. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Usually the best never comes and the worst does. Resolutions are to help one achieve in overcoming the imperfections in ones self any how. Since I have no need of that, I'll just go on as I always have.

So instead of resolutions I thought I would pass on some words of wit that I have learned over the years.

I've had the philosophy ( where did that word come from ) that if it wasn't for bad luck I wouldn't have any luck at all. So I break a mirror every seven years just to guarantee I'll live another seven years. So far it has worked.

I also learned over the years, keep your wife happy and you will be happy. NOTHING worse then an unhappy woman. Believe me I'm proof of that.

Learn early in life to say yes dear. For some reason when I say it Janet stops talking to me.. Hmmm.

Do not and I repeat DO NOT answer when your spouse ask Does this make me look fat. Pretend you are sleeping or get up and mow the lawn even if it doesn't need it. Just get out. I made the mistake and said no your butt makes you look fat. Didn't see her for 3 days, the swelling went down and I saw her on the forth day.

Don't ask her if you can use her earrings to fish with. Learned that from Bubba. Tim you need to remember that one.

Always help her out of the car just remember to stop first. Learned that one from Bubba also.

If there is One thing that I have learned in life to help anybody it is humor. Humor can turn the worst day into a good day. Laugh when life knocks you down because if you don't it will be a long time before you get up.

Once again Happy New Year.